The Importance of Setting Healthy Boundaries

Without healthy boundaries one thing is for sure, you often feel depleted. 

Everything seems to drag. It almost feels like you are carrying around sand bags on your shoulders, well it certainly did for me! Everything from doing the laundry to bringing the kids to school, going to work to actually doing my daily job felt hard. When we are not setting healthy boundaries, we are neglecting our needs. 

Are you feeling depleted?

Depleted because you are always there for everyone, caring for the needs of others but in doing so you put your needs to one side. Is your life feeling like it is constantly filled with overcoming obstacles, taking care of your family, and work? Maybe on top of that you have parents that you need to care for. 

And sadly, when we do finally get some time to experience “time for our self” it becomes overshadowed with feeling guilty.

Like so many women, I didn’t not know how to ask for what I wanted. I wasn’t able to take care of my needs, because many times, like so many of us, I hadn’t even defined my needs. 

There is a fine balance between self-care and care for others. I wanted to be there for others, but I was doing it to the detriment of my own wellbeing. Actually, I was neglecting myself!

So, my question to you is: How are you balancing the care for yourself and for others? Do you give from a place of overflow, or do you give from an empty cup, which has you overextending yourself and therefore depleting yourself?

As a mother, I will never stop going the extra mile for all those I care for, but I have learnt to set healthy boundaries, to pay attention to my personal needs as much as I give it to others.

And in doing so, I have experienced a new sense of aliveness. 

Rachel Goss is a Life Coach at Thought Performance Coaching. Rachel is a compassionate, caring and insightful Life Thought Coach. She is passionate about supporting people to step out of suffering and limitation and step into fulfillment. With her support and guidance, you connect to your inner wisdom, unleash your true potential and optimize your emotional well-being. Experience inner freedom and see your life through a different lens. Read about her Creating Healthy Boundaries coaching program.